[Nhhoa] Rules, a word of thanks, and then dismay

[manfredmartin at comcast.net]

Hey Roger, I strongly believe that we don't hear about all the good sides of human nature that we all take for granted in our lives and so because all the negative things we get exposed to are so devistating to our emotions, it seems to create what you are feeling right now. In most cases it's peoples anger and frustration about their personal life situations that come out when confronted, whether its at the pool or the right of way at a cross road. I always try to understand what people have had to experience to become like that and be thankfull for not being like that.

Regards      Fred Martin
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From: "NHHOA Treasurer" <treasurer at nhhoa.org> 

I just wanted to say that my faith in human behavior was temporarily restored last evening.
 
When coming back from dinner with friends around 10PM, we noticed someone swimming at the pool.  Honestly, I figured it was someone from outside of the neighborhood taking advantage of our amenities which we all pay for.  I walked up and said I’m sorry but the pool closes at 9:00pm.  They were very nice and apologized for letting the time get away from them.  They told me that they lived on Centerport.  I just wanted to say “Thank you” to the two ladies for being so nice and understanding.
 
At the next BOD meeting, discussion will take place due to requests to extend the pool hours, and hopefully we can do just that.
 
Why did I say my faith was temporarily restored?
 
At the same time the conversation above was going on, a car with a Lady and 2 children pulled into the pool area.  My friend that was with us, and also a resident here in North Hampton, walked over and told the lady , word for word, “Excuse me Maam, but the pool closes at 9:00”.  She said OK.
 
We left and dropped our friends off at their home.  Something told me to go back by the pool.  Sure enough, the lady and 2 children were in the pool swimming.  How did they get in since I ensured the gate was closed and the lock doesn’t open from the outside after 9:00pm?  Only one way – someone had to jump the fence.  I confronted her again, after calling Walker to come over for some backup – just in case.  She was rude, uncooperative, and just plain not nice at all.  She finally said she was leaving.  I asked her if she lived in North Hampton, and she said yes, on Hyatt Court.  I asked what house and she told me that “that doesn’t matter”.   I didn’t have the energy to follow.
 
There goes my faith in human nature again – right down the tubes.
 
Why does any of this matter?
 
Because when we purchased our home here, we read the CCRs, the Bylaws, and agreed that they were a good thing to protect our long term investment.  If the rules aren’t enforced, or selectively enforced, it can lead to invalidation of all of the rules and covenants.  Do I like all of the rules?  No, I would like to see some of them, changed.  Do I abide by the rules, even the ones that I don’t like – yes.  For the reasons stated above.
 
I’m sorry for venting, but my frustration level is getting very high.  
 
Can someone help me understand what makes people think that they have the right to do absolutely anything they want – rules or no rules?  
 
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with things like this?
 
It seems that 90% of the time and effort is spent on 10% of the people.
 
Roger
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