[Nhhoa] Outside pool visitors

faithmille at bellsouth.net faithmille at bellsouth.net
Mon Jun 2 19:39:20 CDT 2008 

We don't use the pool alot but I am in favor of putting in a system that would restrict non residents. I think it would be money well spent.

Faith Miller
34 Harbor lane
-------------- Original message from treasurer at nhhoa.org: -------------- 


> One idea that the board is discussing is to replace the current code lock with a 
> lock system that would require a card for entru and to strengthen the gate 
> closer to ensure that it closes every time. The only way in would be to have a 
> card. 
> 
> One card would be issued to each house and it would be up to the resident to 
> coordinate the card usage. 
> 
> This will not work though if people let unknown people into the pool area. 
> 
> It is not overly expensive, but was not budgeted for this year. 
> 
> Could everyone please give feedback regarding this idea? 
> 
> Will it work? Will you not let unauthorized people in? What do you think about 
> limiting the number of guests allowed? 
> 
> Would you be willing for the board to approve using some reserve funds (approx 
> $1000) to secure the pool or would you rather wait until another year to fund 
> the project? 
> 
> All feedback and any other ideas are greatly appreciated. 
> 
> Roger Hackler 
> Treasurer 
> Sent via BlackBerry by AT&T 
> 
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Amanda Brown 
> 
> Date: Mon, 2 Jun 2008 16:15:57 
> To:North Hampton Homeowners Association 
> Subject: Re: [Nhhoa] Outside pool visitors 
> 
> 
> I had the same problem Saturday night, we ended up leaving after they wouldn't 
> leave. The kids came in a van and tried to squeal the tires in the parking lot. 
> I heard them say they are from whispering pines, they were very rude and 
> obnoxious. What should we do? 
> 
> Amanda Brown 
> 
> 
> --- On Mon, 6/2/08, Jennifer Martin wrote: 
> 
> > From: Jennifer Martin 
> > Subject: [Nhhoa] Outside pool visitors 
> > To: "North Hampton Homeowners Association" 
> > Date: Monday, June 2, 2008, 2:13 PM 
> > Hi Gang, 
> > My little family and I went to the pool today and had an 
> > excellent time. It's great to have the opportunity for 
> > my kids to play with others in the neighborhood. 
> > 
> > However, at one point I counted 16 people in the pool that 
> > were not from our neighborhood. I tried (which is VERY 
> > hard for me) to confront them about having to have a 
> > homeowner with them while using the amenities, but that 
> > didn't work. Needless to say, it was rather crowded. 
> > 
> > I'm not good at confrontation. Any suggestions? 
> > 
> > In addition, the pool and bathrooms look great. Thank you 
> > board and other volunteers for the work you do for our 
> > neighborhood :) 
> > Jennifer Martin 
> > ESOL Instructor 
> > White Elementary 
> > Pine Log Elementary 
> > ----- Original Message ----- 
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> > To: 'North Hampton Homeowners Association' 
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